Social Networking Sites Safer than Chat Rooms and IM

While social networking Web sites such as MySpace and Facebook have been singled out as places where teens could face sexual harassment, most of the unwanted solicitation actually happens in chat rooms and via instant messaging, says a study in the journal Pediatrics.

Even there, only 15 percent of children experience unwanted sexual solicitation and only a third report being harassed online.

"There has been a recent concern about the risks posed by social networking to young people," says lead researcher Michele Ybarra, Ph.D., founder of Internet Solutions for Kids, a company that helps design safe Web sites for children.

"But we found that instant messaging was more frequently cited than social networking sites as places for unwanted sexual solicitation and harassment," she says. "And chat rooms were more frequently cited than social networking sites."

Most Importantly, Talk with Your Children

In the study, Dr. Ybarra's team collected data on 1,588 children aged 10 to 15 years old. In a survey, the children were asked about their online experiences over the past year.

Among these children, 15 percent said they had an unwanted sexual solicitation. Only one-fourth of these occurred on a social networking site, notes Dr. Ybarra.

In addition, 33 percent said they were harassed online. About one-fourth of the incidents occurred on a social networking site.

However, 43 percent of unwanted sexual solicitations occurred via instant messaging, and 32 percent occurred in chat rooms. Harassment was most common with instant messaging, which accounted for 55 percent, the researchers found.

Dr. Ybarra thinks that rather than focusing on the technology, the focus should be placed on the children themselves.

"We need to stop worrying about social networking sites and pay more attention to what young people are doing online generally," she says.

Parents have mistakenly thought that if their children are not on a social networking site they are safe, and if they are on one, they are at risk, Dr. Ybarra says. "We need to stop trying to scare our kids. We need to start having real conversations."

Dr. Ybarra adds, "We need to help parents understand it's not about social networking sites, it's about monitoring what's going on. Just as you should know where your child is after school, you should know where they go online."

Undesired Approach to Kids Monitored

One expert is not sure that social networking sites are as safe as Dr. Ybarra's team found.

"I am most concerned that they have surveyed kids who are younger than I would have expected, with only half of the survey population in the 13 to 15 age range," says Kimberly M. Thompson, Sc.D., director of the Kids Risk Project at the Harvard School of Public Health.

"The authors downplay the role of social networking sites instead of recognizing that these are the newest form of online media opportunities, and hence, their use and uses are still growing as people adopt the technology," says Dr. Thompson. "I wonder what they would have found if they surveyed a slightly older population."

MySpace and Facebook have age restrictions to prevent youths under ages 14 and 13 from using the sites, says Dr. Thompson. "

This means that many of the kids in the survey are theoretically prevented from exposure, and one interpretation of the author's findings is that setting an entry age is keeping many kids out of these sites.

The fear of social networking sites has lead one state to propose a law that would attempt to bar sex offenders from these sites.

Recently, New York State Attorney General Andrew Cuomo drafted a bill mandating that e-mail addresses and screen names of registered sex offenders be reported to social networking sites.

The bill would make it easier to stop sex offenders from using popular teen-oriented sites. It would also bar paroled sex offenders from social networking sites and ban online communication with minors.

Always consult your child's physician for more information.

Understanding Adolescence

The teenage years bring many changes, not only physically, but also mentally and socially.

During these years, adolescents increase their ability to think abstractly and eventually make plans and set long-term goals.

Each child may progress at a different rate and may have a different view of the world.

In general, the following are some of the abilities that may be evident in your adolescent:

• develops the ability to think abstractly

• is concerned with philosophy, politics, and social issues

• thinks long-term

• sets goals

• compares one's self to one's peers

As your adolescent begins to struggle for independence and control, many changes may occur.

The following are some of the issues that may be involved with your adolescent during these years:

• wants independence from parents

• peer influence and acceptance becomes very important

• male-female relationships become important

• may be in love

• has long-term commitment in relationship

Consider the following as ways to foster your adolescent's social abilities:

• Encourage your adolescent to take on new challenges.

• Talk with your adolescent about not losing sight of one's self in group relations.

• Encourage your adolescent to talk to a trusted adult about problems or concerns, even if it is not you he/she chooses to talk with.

• Discuss ways to manage and handle stress.

• Provide consistent, loving discipline with limits, restrictions, and rewards.

• Find ways to spend time together.

Always consult your child's physician for more information.